How to Change (for real) :)
Ok people – here we go… We incarnate into physical form and adopt a specific energetic grid setup that becomes our egoic identity. This grid includes all of the lessons and potential experiences available to us through our parents, families, geographical location, and genetic encoding. We then go through our youth adopting the grid makeup, learning our belief structures and ‘norms’, and delving into whatever experiences we set out to have in this incarnation. Somewhere in our 20’s or 30’s (maybe later depending on the individual) we are provided life experiences that may allow us challenge the initial grid and our belief structures that accompany it. This is an AMAZING space of potential growth (usually referred to as a midlife crisis or Saturn return) where we can literally surrender our attachment to the first grid, change our DNA encoding, and bring forth entirely new life circumstance…
Um… Whaaaa? (I can hear your synapses frenetically firing now) In other words – we don’t have to settle for what we ‘were’ just because that’s what we’ve always been. We may have been neglected, abused, traumatized, sick, or unhappy in our early life but that does NOT mean that we have to spend our entire incarnation playing out that archetype! So how do we do it? How can we possibly get what we want when the bulk of our life experience has been the contrary?
Well – I’m glad you asked!!
First off: REAL CHANGE TAKES COURAGE!! Like balls – and big ones at that! In order to really change on the molecular level we gotta want something different so badly that it doesn’t matter if we ‘lose everything’ in the process. (death before rebirth – love it!) The next step is to BELIEVE that the change and circumstance we desire is actually possible. This takes perseverance because usually the squawk box mind and fear based ego jump in telling us things like ‘this can’t possibly work’, or ‘who are you to think that you deserve ___’. Just smile and laugh at your ego – notice it’s limitations and fears – and march on. Next, be willing to let go of your old way of being. This is where the rubber meets the road and tends to snag people up because often times we have formed our entire identity on being a victim, disempowered, or sick etc.. But here’s the gig – If we are not 100% willing to shed the old identity, a new one CANNOT be reborn. Now, I’m not going to lie to you and say that this step is easy because it’s not. It takes tremendous strength to let go of everything we’ve ever known with no guarantee about what lies ahead.. But it IS POSSIBLE! And now we come to our final step… JUMP!!! Just f**king DO IT! We can stand at the edge of the proverbial cliff hemming and hawing until the cows come home – but that won’t get us the change we truly desire. Ultimately, we have do the ‘dirty work’ by taking ACTION – leaping away from what no longer serves us and trusting that we will ultimately land in a better place.
So – there it is. When it comes down to it – we will either do the work or we won’t (which is personal choice). As one who has thrown herself off of countless cliffs into the vast unknown – I can personally attest to the infinite freedom and liberation that this process offers. Breathe, trust, surrender… and FLY.