Family and All That Comes With It
I’ve been doing some deep reflection lately on what the concept of family means to me. Many people come from nuclear family dynamics that challenge or wound them, myself included. Much of my life I’ve kept people at an arms length as a direct result of not trusting that people are safe to be around. This comes directly from my early childhood dynamic. As a result I’ve invoked a radical self-reliance that has proven to be both helpful and isolating. So, in typical SG fashion, I have decided to challenge my subconscious belief patterns around what I feel family to be in order to consciously create my next-level experience.
So, what is family? Here are a few quotes I found on the web:
What does the word “family” mean for you? Whom does it include?
“Family, that’s a strong word. For me, it means to feel secure, to have someone who you can count on, who shares your problems. But it also means to have respect for each other and responsibility.”
-S., girl, Germany
“Family is a really important word. I think it is a word we use about people we love.”
-L., girl, Denmark
“For me my family is something very important in my life because they are the people that will never fail you.” -O., boy, Spain
“Family is the smallest unit of society. Everybody education starts in the family. Love, respect and morals start in the family. They keep their secrets and share them with each other. Family is different in Turkey. They love each other with a different love. Family members never leave each other behind. Teenagers sometimes hate their parents, but their parents always understand about this situation. If their children fall into wrong paths, they try save him/her. Finally, as Turkish parents say: “EVERYBODY LEAVES BUT THE FAMILY IS PERMANENT.” -E. boy, Turkey
“My family means everything to me. “
E., girl, Denmark
Now, I don’t know about you, but some of these quotes trigger me. Why? That’s easy! Because never felt safe with or deeply connected to my nuclear family. Those early life experiences have continued to matriculate through my life just as the subconscious programming of human mental grid structure is designed to do.
Ah… gotta love being human!
Being the astral traveler and energetic renegade that I am, I am simply unwilling to allow myself to be dominated indefinitely by old subconscious belief patterns.
With that, I dropped into deep journey meditation and uncovered that for much of my life I associated the word family with pain. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that kind of subconscious programming doesn’t exactly measure up with warm fuzzy experiences. After taking much time to sit with the crazy uncomfortable emotions that stem from those subconscious cords, I now choose to push forward into something new. Something unfamiliar. Something safe and deeply connected. Are you ready? I sure am!
So, what does family mean to me? I’m glad you asked. To me, family has less to do with biology or traditional doctrine and more to do with presence in my life. They are people who are willing to stick with me through thick and thin. They ground, nurture, support, and provoke, and challenge me in ways that accelerate my growth. They inspire, infuriate, love, and invoke my most radical brilliance. They celebrate and love me when I’m up and call me out when I’m being stubborn, irrational, or ridiculous. (Which has certainly happened from time to time!) They have seen me at my best and worst and love me regardless…. RAW. REAL. EXCRUCIATING. EUPHORIC. CHALLENGING. RESTFUL. HAPPY SAFE.
That is what family means to me.
I want more family connection in my life. Not just surface BS – but true connection that defies convenience and pushes all parties involved forth into greatness. I give thanks for those whom I already consider family, and actively call in even more awesome connection.
So, my lovelies, what does family mean to you?